You’re feeling sad and don’t know why. You’re losing interest in the things that kept you busy and made you feel productive. You find temporary solace in a movie or a book, and look for an escape from reality. You wake up confused, and fake your way through the day because you don’t want to upset anyone around you. You know something’s not right. You’ve Googled depression and anxiety and taken the quizzes. The symptoms listed mirror your own.
You know it’s time to ask for help, but how?
Asking for help can be frightening. It means that you acknowledge the fact that something is wrong with you. It makes you feel vulnerable and less in control of your life, and that is terrifying. However, you might be surprised to find that people around you are supportive and not taken aback by your feelings.
Mental illnesses are common and can be helped, but the first step to receiving help is to talk to someone. Start by finding the right person to talk to and let them help you with the next steps.
Sometimes speaking to your parents can be tough. You want them to think the best of you and sometimes parents can feel angry that you’re having a tough time. But if you have an open relationship with them then go ahead and be truthful about what you’ve been going through lately.
A Trusted Friend
You’ve talked through disastrous first dates, break ups and many of life’s curves. It’s not going to be easy to open up, but you need to speak to someone who lets you feel safe and not judged. Let your friend be your sounding board and help you through.
Your mental health can have a huge impact on your physical health and your doctor will be able to understand this in a professional manner. If you have a general practitioner who you’ve been visiting for a while and trust, then take the opportunity to speak of the hardship you are facing. Your doctor might be able to refer you to the right mental health practitioner and send you on your way to wellness.
You might want to be the best and most awesome person in your partner’s life. But it’s important to remember that when you trust your partner you must trust them with everything. This includes your health. You might be surprised by how your partner is not surprised by your feelings at all, and is already thinking of the next steps to help you through.
An Online Community
There are a number of online communities where people maintain their anonymity and can speak openly about what they are feeling. They can give you a sense of not being alone, and provide support and guidance to find suitable help for yourself. An online community can also be encouraging in putting you in touch with individuals who have overcome these challenges and are leading healthy lives now.
First steps aren’t as bad as you think. Ask for help today, getting better will follow.